Shame- We Don't Need More of It!

Notice: Due to unintentional shaming of my Cousin, I revised this post. Sorry for the inconvenience.

Weight Shame, Religious Shame, Ethnic Shame, Race Shame, Sexuality Shame, the list goes on. Human-Beings are like a barrel of crabs- always trying to pull each other down. From Fat and Gay, to Skinny and Christian. From Asian, to Black, to White. The numbers of shame types, are like the number of grains of sand on a beach. Everybody falls victim at one point or another, to shaming someone else, to feel superior. NEWSFLASH: Under the skin, there is NO superior race! NO superior Sexuality! Nothing, nada, zip, zilch zero. We each have the right to believe as we want, we each have the right to weigh what we weigh- though it's better to find the happy medium of a "healthy" weight, than to be severely over or under. We each can take pride in the cultures we come from (positives, not negatives), and there are better things to do with your time, than go bagging on somebody else's problems! And NO, shaming you pets, is NOT a better use of your time, no matter how funny it is. This pretty sums up my feelings on the subject. Trust me, we all could learn from the drake:

And if you do it in real life, then that really, REALLY needs to be addressed. Think about the following:

Here's an example, of the two-sides of Shame: You are over-weight. 

If you're personally ashamed, because of what the weight has done to your life, that is, not being able to lead the life you desire, then admitting your shame to yourself, is acceptable because you're acknowledging that you need to change directions in your life.

Now, let's look at the wrong way about this. If you are over-weight, and someone is ridiculing you for it, not yourself, based in fact, but someone else, based in opinion and disgust, then that's not okay. It's cancerous, it's putrid, it's disturbing, it's downright nasty.

If anything, we already carry around enough personal, internalized shame as it is, and we don't need any more. It's bad enough for kids to be shamed by parents, if it's truly uncalled for, like little kids being made to hold up signs, the pictures being posted to the Parent's Facebook account. Nothing is deleted from the internet. It will follow those kids for the rest of their lives, and long afterword too!

Shame, internally, it can be a wake-up call to rectify one's life. Shame, coming from people around you, whether you know them or not, can be the more destructive, than rage.